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TRAUMA....

ALCOHOLISM  and  SUBSTANCE   ABUSE

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HOPE and INSPIRATION

Transcending Trauma for new and higher levels of Life!!!

 

 

 

   "We do not laugh because we are happy.  But rather, we are happy because we laugh.  The happiest people alive are those who know how to laugh often and well.
    We're given the power of laughter, not only to laugh AT things, but to laugh things OFF. We'll always know difficulties and we will never be without our share of troubles, but the happy person learns how to laugh most of them off. And that's the reason they're happy -- it's a laughing matter! 

   --   William James, Psychologist

 

    "There are three things you need to go through something like this... faith in God, a supporting spouse, and a sense of humor."
     -- Lt. Col Brian Birdwell - Survivor of the September 11th Terrorist Attacks,
              (Who suffered burns over 65% of his body - 40% of which were third degree,
               who had burned lungs - usually a lethal injury , and who had 31 operations.)

 

    "The power of prayer... the power of intentions... the power of the body... the power of touch... the power of support... the power of the mind... the power of no resentment... the power of doing. Events, people and conditions came together to help me heal. I was not defeated by what happened. That healing continues, and will, I hope, for the rest of my life. There is no end to it and that is the beauty of the process -- the learning and growing never stop... I’ve learned that healing is as much a function of the heart as it is of medicine."

-- Trisha E. Meili, "The Central Park Jogger"

 

 

"You must begin to think of yourself as a survivor, not as a victim. There are a number of benefits with this. It will help you to respect the fact that you have special needs in order to feel safe. You will begin to see your symptoms not as faults but as unique and creative attempts to cope with overwhelming events. You will begin to acknowledge that in some ways you have special experiences and strengths that can be assets if properly understood and complemented by new skills and thinking. And you can begin to move from feeling powerless to feeling competent and in charge of your own destiny... make a priority of working an active recovery program."

-- "Understanding PTSD and Addiction" - - Katie Evans and J. Michael Sullivan

 

 

   "You need faith. That things will be better. You need strength. And you’ll find it within. You need patience and persistence. You need hope, and you need to keep it close to the center of everything that means the most to you.

You need to put things in perspective. So much of your life lies ahead! You need to know how good it can be. You need to take the best of what you’ve learned from the old, and bring it to the beautiful days of a new journey.

Life’s new beginnings happen for very special reasons. When it’s time to move on, remember that it really is okay. Because when a new beginning unfolds in the story of your life, you go such a long way toward making the dreams of your tomorrows come true.

--Douglas Pagels

 

 

    "The most important thing to know, is that you are not alone."

-- Rear Admiral James Stockdale (ret.)  (POW and torture survivor - 7 years and 5 months,
    of North Vietnam’s "Hanoi Hilton")

 

    "Survivors are people who have faced adversity and won. They’ve had all the odds against them, yet they’ve found a way to reach their goals. Survivors are people who have been hurt by circumstances, by others, or just by being in the wrong place at the wrong time -- but they don’t allow themselves to be in pain forever. They go on, because they’re brave enough and strong enough to overcome. They face the future with purpose, for they believe that time is on their side and each effort will pay off. Survivors know how to make the best of life. They have an optimistic attitude and a winning spirit. That’s how they reach their goals and why success is now the story of their lives."

-- Barbara J. Hall

 

"Healing is the result of love. It is a function of love. Wherever there is love - there is healing. And wherever there is no love there is precious little - if any - healing."

-- "People of the Lie: The Hope for Healing Human Evil" -- M. Scott Peck, M.D.

 

 

"Be Not Afraid."

-- "Crossing the Threshold of Hope" -- His Holiness John Paul II

 

 

    "You must begin to think of yourself as a survivor, not as a victim. There are a number of benefits with this. It will help you to respect the fact that you have special needs in order to feel safe. You will begin to see your symptoms not as faults but as unique and creative attempts to cope with overwhelming events. You will begin to acknowledge that in some ways you have special experiences and strengths that can be assets if properly understood and complemented by new skills and thinking. And you can begin to move from feeling powerless to feeling competent and in charge of your own destiny... make a priority of working an active recovery program."

-- "Understanding PTSD and Addiction" - - Katie Evans and J. Michael Sullivan

 

 

The Meaning of Life...
as told by a foremost Psychiatrist and Holocaust Survivor

"The meaning of life differs from man to man and from day to day... Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather he must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible.

Let me recall that which was perhaps the deepest experience I had in the concentration camp. The odds of surviving the camp were no more than 1-in-28... it seemed as if nothing and no one would survive me... so I found myself confronted with the question whether under such circumstances my life was void of meaning. It seemed to me that I would die in the near future... in this critical situation,, however, my concern was different from that of most of my comrades. Their question was "Will we survive the camp? For if not, all this suffering has no meaning." The question which beset me was, "Has all this suffering, this dying around us, a meaning? For if not, then ultimately there is no meaning to survival; for a life whose meaning depends upon such a happenstance - as whether one escapes or not - ultimately would not be worth living at all."

Life’s Transitions: "Those things which seem to take meaning away from human life include not only suffering but dying as well... but those things in no way make it meaningless... for everything hinges upon our realizing the possibilities and making choices... a choice which will be condemned to nonbeing or which will be actualized... an "immortal footprint in the sands of time."

For instance a pessimist may be a man who with fear and sadness, tears a sheet each day off his wall calendar and notices it growing thinner with each passing day. On the other hand, the person who attacks the problems of life actively removes each succeeding leaf from the calendar, jots down a few diary notes on the back, and files it neatly with its predecessors. He can then reflect with pride and joy on all the richness set down in these notes, on all the life he has actively lived to the fullest. What does it matter to him if he notices that he is growing old? Has he any reason to envy the young people whom he sees, or wax nostalgic over his own lost youth? What reasons does he have to envy a young person? "No thank you," he will think. "Instead of possibilities, I have realities in my past, not only the reality of work done and of love loved, but of sufferings bravely suffered. These sufferings are the things of which I am most proud, though these are things which cannot inspire envy."

"The meaning of life (may) always change, but it never ceases to be... we can discover this meaning of life in three different ways: (1) by creating a work or doing a deed - by acting on our beliefs and needs; (2) by experiencing something like goodness, truth, beauty or nature, or someone and in his/her own uniqueness by loving him or her; and (3) by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering... by striving to transform a personal tragedy into a human achievement.

-- "Man’s Search for Meaning"..... Viktor E. Frankl --

 

 

"In the final analysis, the questions of why bad things happen to good people transmutes itself into some very different questions, no longer asking why something happened, but asking how we will respond, and what we intend to do now that it happened."

--When Bad Things Happen to Good People -- Harold Kushner

 

 

"Rebuilding our lives, restoring ourselves, picking up the pieces, healing from past wounds, regaining our hope, obtaining self-respect, mending broken spirits, making amends for the spirits we’ve broken, reclaiming our right to be, releasing what doesn’t belong to us, repossessing our minds and our hearts, repairing broken thoughts and faulty behaviors, replacing them with thoughts and acts of love, renewing our faith, our minds, and our bodies, reviving life within and around us, realizing that there is good within us, growing in that ability to feel and express that good, renovating our broken dreams and broken hearts, increasing our ability to own our light, and reaching out to lovingly share that light with others."

-- Donna Newman

 

 

"You have to have a will to survive... my will was dependent upon three things... my faith in God, my love for my family, and the support for me by the American people."

-- Scott O’Grady, F-16 Pilot, who was shot down and hunted by Bosnian-Serbian forces
   for 6 days.

 

 

    "Life is an opportunity... benefit from it. Life is beauty... admire it. Life is bliss... taste it. Life is a dream... realize it. Life is a challenge... meet it. Life is a duty... complete it. Life is a game... play it. Life is a promise... fulfill it. Life is a sorrow... overcome it. Life is a song... sing it. Life is a struggle... accept it. Life is a tragedy... confront it. Life is an adventure... dare it. Life is lick... make it. Life is too precious.. do not destroy it. Life is life... fight for it."

-- Mother Teresa

 

   "People who are terminally ill are no different than the rest of us. .. There are moments when we want to take about what burdens us, and times when we wish to think about more cheerful things. As long as people know that we will take the extra time when they feel like talking, we’ll see the majority of people share their concerns and react with more relief and hope to such dialogue... we need to sensitive the family to get "in tune" and to come to an acceptance of the reality...then we can help to avoid much unnecessary agony and suffering on behalf of both (the dying) patient and the family that is left behind."

-- "On Death and Dying" -- Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

 

 

  "God, give us the grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things which should be changed, and the wisdom to distinguish one from the other."

--Dr. Reinhold Niebuhr, American Pastor and Theologian (The Serenity Prayer, 1943)

 

 

 

    "Life is difficult. Think of breaking up the difficulties into small pieces, small steps. And share the difficulties -- then they may become bearable. The secret is learning to live with and to use the difficulties one encounters."

-- Bernie S. Siegel, M.D.

 

 

    "Let us realize that what happens around us is largely outside our control, but that the way we choose to react to it is inside our control."

-- Anonymous

 

 

 

 

 

 

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